Wear Yoga pants all day and don’t DO Yoga!
As someone who’s trying to figure out what I want to be when I grow up, those are just a few of the answers I want to say when people ask me, “What do YOU do?”
Self consciousness creeps in and I can almost visualize the measuring stick they’re hiding.
I’ve asked this question too many times.
Do I ask in the hope of meeting someone with a fascinating career like “Treasure Hunter” or “Dog Bark Interpreter”?
What if you can’t talk about your job? (Super Secret Spy!!!)
Or your family is struggling because you or your spouse were laid off.
What’s the real question?
- Do we have something in common?
- Do you have an interesting career that I would enjoy hearing about
- Are you worth talking to while my feet are KILLING ME in these heels??
Wouldn’t dinner parties be so much easier to navigate if they had designated areas.
“Come on in!
If you’d like to talk about your job, please head to the breakfast area.
If you’re unsure about where you fit in the world or would like to meet interesting people in spite of what they do to support their families and who came here to NOT talk about their job; grab a seat on the couch…and enjoy some CAKE!” (Guess where I’ll be!)
What if we asked a different question?
- What do you enjoy doing?
- What do you wish you were doing right now? (THAT would be an interesting discussion!)
- Are you a Super Secret Spy? (Hint. If they say NO it’s because if they answer YES your life would be in mortal danger! How FUN would That be!!!)
- Can you tell I’m wearing Spanx under this dress? (Ask this ONLY if you really want to know the answer)
- OR: Slip them a note that reads, “Do you want to be friends?”
I did an “experiment” the other day! (Imagine evil villain laughter)
I met someone new and purposefully asked her, “What do you like to do for fun?”
*Full transparency: This did NOT go over well.
3 reasons I’m glad I asked in spite of the outcome.
- I was fully present in the conversation.
- I had to be mindful of asking a question that would be of value.
- I was intentional in creating connection with someone new.
What struck me was how uncomfortable she was in anticipating the “What do YOU do” question of DOOM!
I know what that feels like.
My name is Rebecca and I have no marketable skills and feel self-conscious in new situations because of my lack of financial contribution to society!
Sometimes I want to hand out a flyer in social situations:
Happily married woman over 40 looking to meet people to form worthwhile relationships.
Bad at hiding my facial expressions, have trouble containing my excitement when I see CAKE, and cry at Hallmark commercials.
I like to have fun except when it involves heights, fast rides, weird food, or wearing Spanx.
To learn more, head over to the couch…I hear there’s CAKE!
Here’s the TRUTH.
You are more than your job title.
Your worth is not based on what you have/have not “achieved”.
I was reading Holley Gerth’s You’re Already Amazing: LifeGrowth Guide, and came across this:
“All the Roles we have in this life are TEMPORARY! Who God made you is eternal.”
That’s so good, Holley!
We all go through seasons of life.
Sometimes, what we “DO” is more in line with our passions, talents, skills, and desires.
Other times we are walking in obedience in spite of what we would LIKE to be pursuing.
BUT it doesn’t change WHO we are.
- Ask: What do you LOVE to do?
- What is the best advice someone gave you?
- What is something you have always wanted to do?
- Have you ever thought about becoming a Super Secret Spy?
What would you LOVE to ask people instead of the dreaded question of DOOM?