• 1 Tip To Believe You’re Already Amazing

    1 Tip to believe you're already amazing

    I’m gonna be “Straight Up” Paula Abdul style with you!

    Rubber meets the road, pedal to the metal, and no turning back.

    I remember like it was yesterday. I was walking down the hallway, strutting like a Peacock with its feathers fluffed out. I was ON POINT!! (I don’t know what that means…but it sounds good!)

    Feeling good, looking good, and ready to become the envy of all who saw me and my new snazzy outfit!

    Before I opened the door, I paused for a final “once over”.

    Then it hit me!

    What was I thinking?

    It was all wrong!

    Pencil skirt that goes beyond my knees? WRONG!

    Burgundy dress shoes with rubber bottoms? WRONG!

    It was too late, though. I had to open the door and walk into my 4th grade class knowing I was not “Good enough”.

    That was the moment everything changed.

    I spent the next 10 years trying to compensate. Striving for acceptance, compromising myself for others, and acting out a role I wasn’t meant to play.

    In high school, I was “friends” with a group that never got the memo that the 70’s were over! Peace, Love, and Peasant Skirts!!

    Off I went to conquer a brave new world (11th grade) in my baggy t-shirt, peasant skirt, and ankle bracelet. (It had bells…because people needed a warning that I was coming!)

    Come to find out, there was a group of girls that DID get the memo!

    This is when you know something isn’t quite right.

    Instead of Free Love, Save the Manatee, Hug a Tree, (not that there is anything WRONG with those things) this group of girls assumed I had joined a Religious Cult!

    They actually nicknamed me “Christian!” 

    The story ends well.

    We became friends and laughed about it. (Once they stopped being scared!)

    Examples like that are woven though my childhood and teenage years.

    Not good enough, pretty enough, smart enough or even BAD enough. (It’s awkward being bad at BEING bad!)

    Ever known someone who was too good to be bad, but bad enough to not be good?

    Nice to meet you! Let’s have CAKE!!

    That’s why, 32 years later, sitting in a church filled with 1200 women at Business Boutique, I had a major minor meltdown.

    Christy Wright gave us all an assignment. Write a letter to encourage a woman at the conference. (Someone we didn’t know.)


    I got this!

    To be perfectly honest, (instead of inaccurately deceptive??? ) I wrote 2 just-in-case someone didn’t get a letter.

    It came time to swap.

    But before we did, Christy had a “confession” to make.

    Can you guess???

    I’ll wait…

    YUP!!! You’re right!! ( I love having smart friends!)

    The letter was NOT for someone else…it was for…



    This is where it gets tough!

    I had no problem writing letters to strangers, but if I knew the letter was for me, what would I have written?

    Since this is my year to find my new purpose , I have to challenge my thoughts.

    Who am I?

    What do I want?

    What do I believe?

    What is the Capital T Truth?

    Am I speaking honorably about myself?

    Am I talking to myself with love?

    Am I treating myself with excellence?

    What would you say if you wrote yourself a letter? Read the 1 tip I have to believe you are already amazing.

    On Tuesday, I mentioned a quote from Holley Gerth’s book You’re Already Amazing.

    I bought the book when I started this Purpose process.

    “Embracing Who You Are, Becoming All God Created you to Be” is the subtitle, and I think she wrote it just for me! (probably not)

    Shortly after buying the book, I was given the opportunity to join Holley’s  launch team for her brand new LifeGrowth Guide for You’re Already Amazing. (I believe I told Holley: Your book attacked me in the bookstore and forced me to buy it and take it home!)

    In her introduction, Holley says she would love to sit across the table from “us” and share this message.

    Going through the LifeGrowth Guide, that’s what I kept coming back to.

    I can picture a small group of girlfriends talking through these 6 sessions and supporting each other through the hard parts!

    For me, session 2 stirred up some of the old “STUFF”.

    Holley asks you to create a list of 5-10 LIES your heart often hears, and then replace it with God’s TRUTH!!

    Clearly…God is trying to get my attention!

    I write an anonymous letter to myself, and now this???

    Jesus take the Wheel! (Thank you Carrie Underwood for hearing my heart cry)

    Holley also talks about releasing control to God. (Something I may or may not have issues with)

    What I appreciated was Holley’s focus on seeing yourself through God’s eyes.

    She has you take inventory of your strengths, skills, and how you respond to relationships.

    She challenges you to see yourself through God’s filter so you can pursue HIS purpose for your life.

    Holley writes, “You are here for a reason and you are irreplaceable.”

    In the spirit of true confession:

    I am not there.

    Better than I was, not where I want, possibly right where God wants me?

    I don’t like it.

    It bothers me.

    Once again, I’m the stubborn ox!

    I would love to give you 5 steps to get over your insecurities!

    Or 3 easy ways to rid yourself of the imposter syndrome!

    Even How to be good when you’re bad at being bad!

    Sadly, I DON’T.

    I’m a work in progress.

    Slowly clearing out YEARS of muck.

    I DO have 1 tip.

    Don’t listen to the garbage in your head.

    It has taken me 41 years to come up with that one.

    I pray (literally) I start to catch on quicker from here on out!

     What would you write in a letter to yourself?






  • How Do You Measure Up To The Truth?

    Do you carry around a measuring stick?Do you carry around a measuring stick?

    Last Friday I introduced you to Kaye Wilson.

    She is a beautiful, intelligent, well-educated, capable woman.

    She has 5 wonderful children, plays the piano, speaks french, and is a certified parenting coach. (which means she literally “knows” how to parent, right?)

    If I put my measuring stick between the 2 of us, I come up short!


    Kaye 5 / Rebecca- 1


    Kaye- well-educated /Rebecca -never finished college

    Gifts and Talents

    Kaye- piano and fluent in French

    Rebecca- quit french horn in High School and after 2 years of French class, can only say, “Hello, friend.” and “How are you”.

    Even though Kaye far surpasses me when measured, she and I have something in common.

    We have struggled with self-confidence.

    My husband I attended the Army Ball a few years ago.

    I bought a beautiful dress, amazing shoes (that tortured my feet), and was having an epic hair day!

    I lost some weight, firmed up and felt sassy!

    The Husband was all decked out in his Dress Uniform! (Hello Soldier, wanna make out in the elevator?)

    As the evening progressed, the time came for a potty break.

    Fix the makeup, tuck everything BACK into the Spanx, (it’s amazing how “stuff” migrates out-of-place) and make sure my hair hadn’t deflated.

    As I walked towards the bathroom, I saw a woman looking at me with her eyes WIDE OPEN!  It took me a moment, but then I realized.

    We were wearing THE SAME DRESS!! (Raise your hand if you’ve had that happen!)

    I could have smiled, said something witty, and shrugged it off.

    Wanna Guess what I did???

    I took out my measuring stick. (Not literally! No room left in my Spanx.)

    She was taller, younger, thinner, and looked amazing in “our” dress.

    The rest of the night, I made sure I didn’t get too close to her.

    If I did, everyone else would find out what I already knew.

    I didn’t measure up.

    Break the measuring stick of comparison. Click To Tweet

    Measure up to what?

    Cindy Bultema recently said, “Satan may tell you what is true, but he will never tell the Capital T Truth.”

    What does that mean?

    It’s true that she was taller, younger, and thinner.

    Does that make her more valuable than I am?

    What if it was the other way around?

    Would being younger, thinner, and taller make ME more significant?

    Of course not!

    Thinking it doesn’t make it true.

    Even if it IS true, is it the “Capital T” Truth?

    We are His workmanship

    What is the “Capital T” Truth?

    You were created in His image. (Genesis 1:27)

    You were fearfully and wonderfully made. (Psalm 139:14)

    You have value. (Matthew 10:31)

    You have been saved by grace. (Ephesians 2:8)

    You have security in Christ. (Romans 8:39)

    You are the light of the world. (Matthew 5:14)

    You have a glorious future. (Romans 8:18)

    Undoing 41 years of listening to things that may be true (or complete lies) but aren’t the Capital T Truth is difficult.

    Acknowledging brokenness without restoration is uncomfortable.

    That is what this season of my life is about.

    Who do I believe I am and does that line up with the Truth?

    Am I willing to walk in a manner worthy of my calling?

    Are you?






  • Who Do You Trust With Your Heart?

    Who do you trust with all your heart?Have you ever participated in a team building exercise that encourages trust?

    Fall backwards and people will catch you.

    Put on a blindfold and have someone guide you along a path?

    No thank you!

    The only blindfold I wear is my sleep mask. (Have you tried a sleep mask? I can’t sleep without it.)

    When you’re falling backwards, you have to trust that the people in charge of catching you will have the strength and steady footing to hold you up without collapsing.

    Will they be able to bear the added weight?

    Will they lead you safely around obstacles?

    It’s easy to trust when you’re young.

    We trust daddy is gonna catch us when we jump into his arms.

    We trust what our parents tell us about Santa Clause, the Easter Bunny, and if we put a tooth under our pillow a fairy will come and take it and leave money. (That’s not creepy at all, right?)

    As we get older, trust becomes more difficult.

    We confide in a friend and they share your secret with someone else.

    We rely on a promise that doesn’t come through.

    We pour our heart into a relationship that comes to an end.

    I have been the receiver AND giver of mistrust.

    I’ve had my heart hurt and have been the one to hurt others.

    I ask questions like…

    What are they after?

    What do they want from me?

    What do they get from this?

    That’s because people are fallible.

    We are navigating through our own experiences, with our own pain, and carrying past hurts with us.

    What once came “without question” is now filled with doubt, hesitation, and holding back from truly sharing.

    How much would you be willing to TRUST if you knew UP FRONT that it was safe?

    Trust God with all your heart. He is your refuge and fortress in your time of need. Click To Tweet

    That the weight of your burden would not make them collapse?

    Not only will they catch you, but will hold you steady and support you fully.

    That the direction they lead you is not only the right one, but that you’re on solid footing.

    That is the Trust that ONLY God can give.Proverbs 3_5-6 update

    I talked about God’s unfailing love a few weeks ago.

    It is deeper, stronger, and will never be removed from those He loves.

    It is unconditional.

    His love is sacrificial.

    John 3:16

    For God so loved the world that He GAVE his only begotten son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.

    Remember, we can have Hope in Him. Confidence that He is with us and that He hears us.

    Jeremiah 29:11 (HCSB)

    “For I know the plans I have for you”- this is the Lord’s declaration- “plans for your welfare, not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.”

    Knowing that He loves us with unfailing love, and we have hope in His plans for us, we can trust Him with our hearts, burdens, and our sorrows.

    trust part 3Freesia is the symbol of trust.

    It is a delicate flower that requires much care. Just like our hearts.

    God wants us to look to Him for trust.

    He will take care of you, never let you go,  won’t lead you astray or fail to catch you.

    How do you trust God?


    Trust Him with something small.

    Not because you want him to “PROVE” Himself ( he isn’t magic), but to soften our hearts to trust itself.

    It can feel weird to trust…tell Him that. (Even though He already knows it)

    The best way to find out if you can trust somebody is to trust them. -Ernest Hemingway-

    What about you?

    Do you struggle with trust?







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